Since I started blogging, I’ve clarified, that I’m awkward, quirky and plain out weird sometimes. It’s also no secret that I’m an introvert. Guess what?I’m glad.
I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Some of you may see it as a personality disorder that I need to change or “overcome.” I don’t see it that way at all. Here’s several reasons why I wouldn’t change a thing;
I don’t hyperventilate when my schedule isn’t full for the week. I enjoy a few weekly social functions, with a few good friends, but I don’t need to desperately find things and people to fill up my time. Introverts get a bad rap sometimes, and we get treated like we have personality issues. I’d much rather be the way I am, than needy and clingy as extroverts can come across sometimes.
2. It saves money.
Being at home generally saves money, unless you’re addicted to using credit cards online. Being content to stay at home, not only saves me from spending money on eating out and at stores, but It allows me more time to make things from scratch and do things to stretch our budget. Having the time to make homemade pizza as opposed to spending money on cardboard frozen pizzas is a win win for the finances and our taste buds 😉
3. I can keep our house clean.
Go ahead and roll your eyes. I know what year it is, and that keeping a clean house isn’t supposed to be a big deal anymore. I’m old school. It makes me happy to walk into a clean living room. Keeping to myself allows me more time to clean and declutter. I can do a load of two of laundry everyday and keep the dishes washed and put away. Not going out as much also keeps me from bringing more junk into the house.
4. My friendships are real.
I don’t have a huge clique, or a slew of stuff on my calendar, but my friendships are real. I won’t carry on with someone I don’t click with, just to have human interaction. I’ve seen that happen, and that’s not the same as being polite, that’s being two faced. Conversations with my friends have substance. Many of my friends are introverts, and we respect each others space and allow everyone in the room to talk and share. When you’re used to being talked over by extroverts, that’s huge.
5. I can teach my kids what socializing isn’t.
I’m socially awkward . I screw up publicly. Introverts have trouble opening up. Extroverts can’t shut up. Is one better or worse than the other? I don’t think so. All I know is, a lot of people have a very skewed opinion of what it means to “socialize.” Socializing doesn’t mean being loud, interrupting, being the center of attention and never stopping to take a breath. It means having the sense to know that when the Pastors preaching, the Teachers teaching and two people are already having a conversationo, you keep your big trap shut. I can’t tell you how much rudeness bugs me. Socializing doesn’t mean draining others of all their mental energy. It doesn’t mean making sure your opinions are heard without hearing the opinions of others. That’s why I don’t worry about my kids “socialization” even though they’re Homeschooled. I don’t want them to socialize the way so much of the world does. They might not be up in your grill, but I’d like to think they have manners. They know better than to have their own conversation in the middle of Sunday School. They better. They can even, *GASP* entertain themselves from time to time.
“But little Johnny is social, and I have to make a full time job of running him here and there and everywhere.” That’s your business. My kids are social too, and “No, we’re staying home today…” works just fine on them 🙂
6 The weather is no concern of mine.
Give me rain or snow. I don’t mind. I do need some sun in there to balance things out. I love the way my house looks filled with sun, but I actually enjoy a good day shut in. We know how to break out the board games and popcorn. Ok, we usually end up watching T.V. But anyway, I am just fine and content being stuck in my house. Which leads to my last point.
7. I can enjoy the house God blessed us with.
Just let me stay home with a good book and a cup of coffee! I find it ironic that many people with larger homes, don’t even like being home. Our house isn’t huge.
Actually, it’s pretty small 🙂 But we all spend a large portion of our lives working hard to pay for these homes we live in. Why in the world do they get treated like hotels? Our home is our life. We do school here, we learn about the Bible, and nurture friendships and family here. We bake together and plant flowers. My favorite “dates” with the Bearded Man have been watching Netflix after the kids are tucked in. I have an adorable kitchen, and the most comfy recliner ever. I’m thankful to be a homebody, and get the most enjoyment out of something my Husband has worked so hard to pay for and make beautiful. I’m proud to be here, keeping it clean and teaching my kids the value in being neat and tidy. Letting them see that being quiet and alone with your thoughts from time to time is perfectly healthy.
“Bored” isn’t even an option here. I recently read “Little House in the Big Woods” to Keira. I can only imagine the look on Ma Ingalls face, if Laura had come in and said, “Ma, take me somewhere, I’m bored!” I seriously doubt Ma would’ve replied, “Oh, my poor little social darling, how would you like to be entertained today?” Nope, Laura would’ve probably gotten stuck doing chores for making such a silly complaint.
Our little home is a sanctuary after a hard day for my Husband. How sad to think it would only be a place to sleep, or an option after all others have been exhausted. I told you I was old school.
If you’re extroverted, don’t be gettin’ your panties all in a bunch. We live in a world that revolves around extroverts. You have your day. It’s everyday. Let us introverts enjoy the things that make us unique and ultimately contented individuals. We might seem weird and unsociable to you, but you seem intrusive and downright barbaric. It doesn’t make either of us right, just different. I’m so glad we’re not all the same. But seriously, quit talking in the middle of sermons. It’s not cool man, just not cool.
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